What does it truly mean to belong?
Belonging is the felt sense of the year. It’s talked about in the workplace, written about in books, and blasted across social media. But what does it truly mean to belong? Why does belonging matter?
Understanding Belonging: More Than Just a Feeling
When you search the definition of belonging, you find various meanings. According to Merriam-Webster, belonging means two things: possession and a close or intimate relationship. But it’s so much more than that.
The Origins of Belonging: From the Womb
Belonging begins in the womb. A baby is attached to its mother physically through the umbilical cord, receiving nutrients and oxygen, but also emotionally. What the mother feels, the baby feels. If the mother is stressed, so is the baby. If she is joyful, the baby senses that joy. This attachment is the first taste of belonging.
When the attachment is secure, the child feels seen, safe, and valued. But if the bond is insecure, shame can creep in, leading to feelings of worthlessness. As these children grow, they may seek belonging in unhealthy ways, trying to fit into groups that promise acceptance but never truly satisfy.
The Power of Secure Attachment
After birth, this connection deepens. A mother's loving touch, her gaze, her response to the baby's needs—these build secure attachment. The baby learns they are known, seen, and loved. This is the foundation of healthy belonging and feeling valued.
Searching for Belonging in the Wrong Places
But as we grow, many of us look for belonging in the wrong places. We try to fit into groups, perform for approval, or adopt identities that feel safe but are ultimately shallow. These false connections only lead to loneliness.
True Belonging: Connection with God
True belonging can only be found in connection with Yahweh our Creator. The One who created us for His great pleasure. Abba God does know you. He sees you. He sees what you’re going through when you’re alone. He knows your thoughts. He offers a love that is secure, unconditional, and unchanging. When we seek belonging outside of Him, we end up feeling more lost and disconnected.
The Cycle of Shame and False Belonging
The more we try to belong without God, the more separate we feel. We perform, we conform, we pretend—and yet, inside, we remain empty. But this cycle can be broken.
Finding True Belonging: Return to God
How do we break the cycle? By turning back to God’s loving arms. Lament to Him. Cry out, confess, and receive His love. Be vulnerable to Abba. Ask for forgiveness. Then find a trusted friend, counselor, or group that is secure in God and tell them your story.
Jesus: The Bridge to Belonging
Jesus came to bridge the gap between us and God. His sacrifice made a way for us to belong securely in God’s family. No more pretending, no more shame—just true belonging. Secure attachment knowing nothing can ever separate us from Gods love.
Conclusion
Belonging isn’t about fitting in—it’s about being fully known and fully loved. It starts with God and is reflected in authentic, loving relationships. If you feel disconnected, know that true belonging is always available through Him by faith and trust in Jesus.
What are your thoughts about belonging? Let me know.
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Love,
Christina
